Traditions can be comforting, and people feel closer as they anticipate and enjoy the same things at the same time. But you don’t have to let the ghost of Christmas past ruin your holidays. There is nothing mandatory or magical about traditions. And you might be surprised to find out that children have mixed feelings anyway because of the traditional conflicts or arguments that the holidays always brought.
So let go of the idea of traditions. Don’t try to recreate holidays past. Focus instead on celebrations. Christmas is a season – not just a day! Celebrations can be new every year. But if you like the comfort in traditional ways of doing things, develop new traditions.
Consult your children. Ask what means the most to them or what they like to remember about holidays. Ask how they would like to celebrate. Simply inviting their input might be the most memorable part of this holiday. If you’ve always had problems dividing the time on Christmas – which grandparent do you visit? – simply let the other parties have their way. This alone can create good will.
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